Positivity? Yes, sir!
Stay positive! Think positive! Yeah, yeah we get it already. Have you ever noticed that every time you see something bad happening in your life, and you tell somebody about it, the first answer they give is: “Be positive!”. How many times have you heard that? I need to admit that I have been giving this advice to people too. I got the same advice from other people. After I read a great book named: “The noble art of not giving a f*ck”, that mindset changed and I will explain to you why.
“Hey, whenever you feel down always stay positive. It will make you feel better and you need to keep being positive!”. This is something I heard often in my life. I heard that I was too negative about everything and I was too negative all the time. After I while I thought it was better to stay positive and I learned to stay positive all the time. Did it make me happy? Well, not at all. I asked myself why it did not make me happy at all. After I read the book “The noble art of not giving a f*ck”, it suddenly became clear why it did not help me at all.
If you stay positive, you will soon start lying to yourself. Can you imagine it? When something happens to you in life, and you keep being positive about what just happened to you, you will be hiding the truth from yourself. In some way, you are actually hurting yourself in a way you could never imagine.
It is okay to stay a little bit positive, but don’t start acting like nothing happened.
Running away from troubles is easy, but they don’t just disappear by avoiding them, you need to face them. So what is the reason why you are running away from your problems? The reason I did not face my problems, was because I did not think I could handle my problems. I can tell you that it is really bad to run from and avoid problems.
Running from and avoiding problems is what you are doing when you just keep being positive. You think that you have got your troubles out of the way, but instead, you just ran away from it. Sooner or later this problem will come your way again and what than? Run away from it again? Is that a way to live your life? Don’t get me wrong, but being positive about everything is not what you want. As I said before, running away from problems or troubles is not what you want. They will appear again in your life whatever.
Instead of avoiding it and being positive. Tell yourself that everything happens for a reason, but you need to face it and overcome it
Not too much, please
As I said before, being positive is okay. Don’t confuse yourself with the positive I warned you about. The positive mind that makes you hide your problems from yourself. The being positive I mean is the positive mind that keeps real with you. The positive mind that only makes you think about the outcome if you overcame the trouble or problem you had before you. This way you are not lying to yourself. You are telling yourself that there is something you need to fix in your life and everybody has something to worry about. It is the way life goes. Never let your mind tell you that there is nothing to worry about. You need to learn what is worth worrying about and what is not worth worrying about.
Don’t lie to yourself and please don’t believe the people who say that being positive about everything is the way to go. It is really not the way you want to live.
Life is not always sunshine
Accept the way your life goes. It is as simple as that. Well, I got to say that in my own life it was so hard sometimes, but I really can tell you that overcoming and dealing with your problems in your life will really make you happy. If I think about my own life, I would have done it the same way every time. You know why? because I did really struggle to do the things I wanted to do. When I look back on my own life, I feel the joy of the struggles. I am happy to have had all the struggles I had. Who could have thought that the things I saw as something negative, would turn around and become something positive?
Life is life. If you want to change it well then I got a little sad message for you: “You CAN’T”. Instead what you can do is accept the way it went and try to turn it around the way you want it to go and work for it. If life did not have any obstacles, then how could we have grown to the level we are right now? Life is about solving your problems and you need to feel joy when you fix your own troubles and problems.
Never hide your problems. Remind yourself that life is not always sunshine. Sometimes it will rain anyway.
If I said that by being positive you are actually harming yourself, would you believe me? I don’t think so, but it is the truth. If you are super positive everytime, it means that you are trying to hide the problems in your life. So what you are doing is harming yourself.
Never try to avoid problems. If you are positive every time something happens, you know it is bad and you know you need to do something about it, you know you are hiding something from yourself. It is bad business to do this. It will come back to you for sure. So instead of being super positive about everything you need to keep being real with yourself and face your problems.
Accepting and facing your problems is what life is about. Reading all these books about being happy is spending your life for the worse. If you want to be happy you need to face the problems you have before you. You need to face the obstacles that are in front of you. Life is just like that.