How many times did we feel like somebody else was more successful than us? The first thing we try to do is to start being like them, act like them and the worst we try to do the things they do. We never understand if this is truly bad for us or how it can hurt us in a way we never could think about.
What do I mean
We are humans and I have seen so many people being influenced too much by the outside world. I have seen people imitating others in order to be just like them.
I think this has something to do with the fact that we have let social media affect our lives. We can now see how bad it is impacting us. We try to be the people that we see on Instagram, Facebook or whatever. It feels like we have lost ourselves. It feels like we have no idea what we are doing and as long as we follow the flock everything is alright.
We are so afraid of not being like all the other people, so we act like them, dress like them and even talk like them. In reality, we are not the person we act like. Deep inside we all know who we really are, but it seems like we are losing sight of ourselves because we think that we will not fit in the society if we do not act like the “successful” people on Instagram or Facebook.
I think it is time to discover your true self and now is the time to stop following the flock and start looking around you.
Is it always bad?
Well, I have to say that there two kinds of imitation really. The first one is the bad one. I call it the imitation without imagination. This kind of imitating others can really have a super bad effect on your life.
1. The imitation without imagination
This kind of imitating others will do some nasty things to you. Believe me, I have seen it. One of the major things it does is the fact that it will kill your own imagination, your own innovative mind. The reason for that is, because you are constantly looking for ways to be like the other person that you admire so much. So in fact, you will stop using your own imagination and your own innovative mind.
Your creativity will slowly die off and the reason for that is very simple, you don’t use your own way of style. You just dress like the person you admire and that is not the only thing, you also start acting like you are like him or her. Your creativity level will go from hero to zero.
One of the things that will happen is that you will feel insecure about yourself all the time because you have never tried doing things on your own. Before you know it, you will end up seeing how many years have past and you still have nothing. The worst of all is that you have never discovered the true you.
2. Imitation with inspiration
Then we have the one that will have many benefits. I don’t even want to call it imitation. It is so much better than imitating others. When you read books or you see a person on the internet having the success that you want, never try to do what they did. Don’t replicate them, but instead find some inspiration. Find some things that you can add to your daily life in order to become more productive. Instead of doing everything they do on a daily basis.
Find your own way of doing things. That is what will happen if you imitate with inspiration. The reason that people start imitating others without imagination is that they don’t know who they are, what they want or why they are imitating the other person anyway.
In the next section, I will explain how you can get rid of this harmful attitude.
Who are you?
I think I have said this a million times and I will tell you all again. Almost in every post, I start with the fact that you need to start discovering who you really are. Imitating others can have a really bad effect on this. I think that you have lost a lot of time by imitating others. It is sad to hear that you have lived so many years of your life not knowing who you are, instead, you started doing research to that one person, in this case, your idol on Instagram, who seems to have it all. Is that not sick! Man, he got everything that you desire.
By now you have started talking to yourself, telling yourself: “Look what he has got and Look what I have got. Well, maybe I just need to dress, talk and act like him. That must be the way to success”. This is so super wrong.
You have been wasting time all your life and you did not know it, because you were just blindly following what the other person did. Here are some steps to get you going with discovering who you are.
1. Step out of your…..
The first and most important step into personal development is stepping out of your comfort zone and trying new things. Now it is time to be serious with yourself and see the time you have wasted on following the things that, that particular person did. Remember that he or she is also human and you are too, so you must have talents too. Discover them by trying new things and really start learning. You will be amazed by how amazing this is. Imitating others will get you nowhere, but by investing in yourself you can go anywhere.
2. Set up the goals
When was the last time you really had a goal in life? Yeah, I know your goal was to be the same as the others person, but guess what, it did no good for you at all. Now you are in a situation where you have never had a real goal. Now the feeling of regret starts to come up little by little, but hey it is never too late. If you are reading this it means that you have had it and you want to make a change.
So the first step was to get out of your comfort zone and find your passion and this passion needs to go deep. It needs to strike your heart. Now it is time for you to set up the goals you want to achieve with this new passion of yours. Write them down on a piece of paper and make you sure you place it somewhere you can see it every day when you wake up and before you go to bed.
3. Know why
Most people find something they like, but they never know why they like it. Just like when you were imitating others. You were imitating them, but you never knew why you did what you did. This is bad. Always know why you started doing what you are doing right now. I have been reading a great book. It is a book written by Simon Sinek and I will place a link underneath this post. Buy this book and really understand the power of finding your WHY in life.
Well, we came to the end of this post and now it is time for a short recap.
You have the ability to discover who you truly are and that is so great, so why bother with doing what others do? Imitating others is not always harmful. There are two kinds of imitating:
- Imitating without imagination
- Imitating with inspiration
There are some ways to get rid of the harmful one:
- Step out of your comfort zone
- Set some goals
- Know why you are doing the things that you do
And finally as promised the inspirational book about finding your way. Definitely a must read.